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You and your family must make many decisions and gather numerous facts
and documents when a death occurs. We realize this is a very difficult
time and want you to know we are here to help. Following is some
information we hope you find helpful as you take care of your loved
one's final arrangements.
Notification of the Proper Authorities
When a death occurs in a care facility, such as a hospital or nursing
home, the professional staff will notify you and the necessary
authorities. If a loved one was in the care of a hospice program, a
hospice representative may give family members instructions and
procedures to follow. In other situations, such as when a death occurs
at home or in the workplace, a family member or co-worker should
contact emergency personnel and the person's physician if he or she was
under a doctor's care.
In those first few hours...
- One of the first phone calls you will need to make is to the
funeral home you will entrust with the care of your loved one. Funeral
arrangers are experienced professionals who can provide information and
guidance.
- Call or contact other family members and friends.
- Call clergy or other spiritual advisors.
- If your loved one wanted to be an organ donor, inform the hospital staff or the organization to receive the donations.
The Death Certificate
A death certificate is a legal document signed by the attending
physician indicating the cause of death and other vital statistics
pertaining to the decedent. If your loved one died in an accident, the
county medical examiner or coroner may prepare the form. The funeral
arranger can help you prepare and file the death certificate with the
state and assist you with purchasing certified copies. Certified copies
are needed to apply for benefits due the family, to sell or transfer
ownership of property, to gain access to safety deposit boxes and bank
accounts and to receive Veteran's benefits. Additional copies may be
ordered at any time directly from the county or state agency
responsible for vital statistics.
First Call to the Funeral Home
The first call to the funeral home lets the funeral arranger know that
a death has occurred. While you may ask the arranger any questions at
this time, you will be able to discuss the arrangements in detail later
when you meet in person. During this initial call, the funeral arranger
will gather information to be able to transport your loved one to the
funeral home. The funeral arranger may ask you several questions,
including whether your loved one made any prearrangements and whether
you give your permission to embalm the decedent, if necessary. The
arranger will schedule a date and time for you to meet at the funeral
home and will let you know what you should bring with you. (A checklist
of items is provided in the next section.)
First Visit to the Funeral Home
When you visit the funeral home, the funeral arranger will provide you
with price lists and guide you through the entire arrangement process,
explaining how you can create a memorable personal celebration of your
loved one's life. The arrangement process may include preparing and
filing the official death certificate; scheduling the location, date
and time of services or events; selecting a casket, urn or other items;
preparing an obituary notice; scheduling vehicles; and selecting
pallbearers. You may also sign necessary authorizations or make
arrangements to have them signed by the appropriate family members.
The following checklist will help you remember
what information about the decedent and items will be needed when
meeting with a funeral arranger.
- Full legal name
- Home address
- Social Security number
- Date of birth
- Place of birth
- Father's name
- Mother's maiden name
- Veteran's discharge papers (DD-214)
- Recent Photograph
- Highest education
- Occupation
- Place of burial (if applicable)
- Clothing
- Clergy name and phone number
- Survivors (name and relationship)
- Insurance policies (if applicable)
Burial and Cremation Arrangements
If you choose interment, you will need to select a
grave space, lawn crypt or mausoleum space and will want to choose a
memorial or monument. There will be a professional service fee for the
interment.
If you choose cremation, remember that you can
plan a visitation and funeral ceremony to be held before the cremation.
Another option is a memorial service to be held after the cremation
with the urn present and/or a display of photos and other items that
illustrate the life of your loved one. You also have memorialization
options at the cemetery, including permanent placement of cremated
remains. Your funeral arranger or cemetery counselor can
explain all of the options available to you.
Commonly Used Terms
- Columbarium - A structure consisting of small vaults or niches for urns containing cremated remains.
- Committal Service - The ceremony at the gravesite following a funeral ceremony or gathering in a church, chapel or other location.
- Crypt - An interment space in a mausoleum.
- Entombment - The interment of human remains in an above-ground crypt or mausoleum.
- Interment - The placing of remains into their final resting place, such as the ground, a tomb, crypt or niche, etc.
- Inurnment - The placing of an urn containing cremated remains into a columbarium, niche, crypt, tomb or ground space.
- Lawn Crypt - A subsurface concrete structure constructed in
multiple units for the interment of human remains. Lawn crypts may be
constructed with more than one tier or level.
- Mausoleum - A public or private building specially designed to receive entombments in crypts and niches.
- Memorial - Any item, other than a mausoleum or columbarium,
used for identifying an interment space or for commemoration of the
life of a decedent, including, but not limited to, a monument, marker,
niche plate, urn garden plaque, crypt plate, cenotaph, marker bench and
vase.
- Niche - A compartment or cubicle for the memorialization and permanent placement of cremated remains.
- Outer Burial Container - Any container which is designed for placement in
the grave around the casket including, but not limited to, containers
commonly known as burial vaults, grave boxes and grave liners.
- Professional Service Fee - The fee charged for making an interment including,
but not limited to, administrative, clerical, legal and mechanical
services performed by the cemetery in conjunction with the opening of
an interment space in preparation for the interment of human remains
and the subsequent closing of the interment space after the interment
has been performed.
- Urn - A container made from a variety of materials
including, but not limited to, bronze, ceramic, glass, porcelain, wood
or other materials, into which cremated remains are placed. Many are
designed in traditional vase-like shapes or square and rectangular
cubes.
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